Counting the gains helps to redeem the loss.

I asked a young widow, "If you could wave a magic wand over any of the past, what would you change?" Her answer was not surprising but it was surprisingly redemptive. She responded, "I would want my husband alive again, but I would not want to lose what I have learned since his death." There is a healing tenet in this short story, "Counting the gains helps to redeem the loss."